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Reflection: Ms.20Something

“When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11    On my birthday it hit me more than ever that I truly am becoming a woman now. I have been meditating on what I want to bring into my twenties. The years of the twenties is filled with evolution; to enjoy life, make mistakes learn from them, and discover who God has designed you to be. Here is a list of twenty things I want to focus on in these years to come.  ​

1. Only accept genuine love

There are people in your life who are solely in your circle because they are for what you are for, but not necessarily for you. They do not want to see or help you become your very best as you may for them. Only accept those who are going to be in your life for the long run. Those relationships filled with positivity, consistent support, spiritual and mental growth, and an unconditional love (I Corinthians 13: 4-7).

2.  Say no, it’s okay

This is not easy to do especially towards those you care for, but if you know that saying yes will not positively benefit your growth then say no. It is simple to think, but not always simple to do. Once you are aware of your worth and where to place your value it becomes easier.

3. Protect your peace (Proverbs 4:23)

Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive! Work on becoming a happier and more content person in the seasons God has you in, and anything or anyone that comes to distract you from your focus, joy and overflow of happiness should be filtered from your life.

4. Take more risks 

Reminder: Failure is inevitable! It is how you allow it to control you that is important. Let it become your fuel to accomplish your desired goals. Risks will take you out of your comfort zone. Once you are out of your shell you will gradually figure out who you are meant to be.

5. Pray more

Prayer is such an essential tool for clarity. It helps with commanding your morning, thanking God for guiding you thus far, and letting go of all the worries of your mind, and lay it all in God’s hands. Whether it is prayer or meditation, take some time to center yourself from the daily pressures of life. 

6. Invest in you

Do you want to write a book, direct your own film, lose ten pounds, travel, start that business, or learn a new skill? Then do it! If you are going to become who God has called you to be then you must take chances to figure out your true passions and walk in your divine purpose.

7. No overthinking! 

My friend literally told me, “You’re the type to think your way out of something." The truth hurts but it was exactly what I needed at that moment (thanks girl for being real with me). Overthinking will make you create your own reality; it can allow negativity to control your mind and evidently your actions. Be cautious and aware so you are not allowing your thoughts to hold you back in life.

8. Better time management 

Ugh! I think we all have those mornings where we press the snooze button five times too extra. Stay focused on what matters at the moment, make a to-do list at the start of each day and try to complete as much tasks as you can before night, and prioritize your responsibilities.

9. Listen to your elders a bit more.

It is easy to want to just do you and while there is nothing wrong with that, it is wise to take advice from those who have been through what you are going through, have your best interests at heart, and can offer wise counsel.

10. Take care of your health, be active 

Your body is your temple (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) and is the centerpiece of your heart, mind, and soul. So make better food decisions, stay in tuned with what your body is telling you, be active, take your vitamins, and get those yearly checkups! 

11. Grow a thicker skin

People will disappoint you, they will break promises, there will be those that do not like you simply for being you, but you know what? Their opinions don't have power over you becoming who you are meant to be. To my fellow sensitive souls out there: your willingness to be vulnerable is stronger than you could ever imagine, but be careful letting everyone into your heart (Proverbs 4:23).

12. Learn to let go and let God.  

Patience is a fruit of the Holy Spirit and truly a virtue of life. Anything that you are going through, let it go and let God take control of the situation.  

13. Focus on God 

Seek peace in life, let God mold you into whom he has called you to be, and live a life glorifying him for the many blessings that was and is to come.

14. Travel more 

Period. Travel across America, to other countries, or a road trip to the next coast, just travel. Traveling is part of growing because you can immerse yourself into different cultures.

15. No comparison!

You are your own person. Someone may be in their point F, while you are still trying to figure it out in point B, so stay in your own lane and focus on you.

16. Hold space for yourself, have boundaries

Your space is important and as you pour ensure you allow room for your cup to be poured into as well.

17. Read more

Knowledge truly is power and you are never too old to learn something new. #staywoke

18. Trust the journey.    

Trust what God is doing in you now. You will have seasons where you feel stuck, but those are the moments where God is asking for your attention the most! You have a purpose for your life and anything worth your time will not come easy.

19. No more people pleasing! 

We are human, an imperfect race. We will fail each other time and time again, which is why you must not live your life putting trust, expectations, and hope in man but in God.

20. Know your value.  

This is a journey of becoming and as we go through the phases of life we learn more about ourself along the way. Along the way, I hope we walk in our royal DNA (1 Peter 2:9) with our head held high knowing that we are Kings and Queens. Let us walk and talk like the royalty we are, not accepting anything less than our worth.


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